Learn to give, not to expect

I want to learn to give and not to expect. Our expectations are the reasons of our miseries. Once learnt this unique way of living, can actually change our lives. Every time we meet someone, we develop certain expectations from them. We expect always high of our children, friends, peers and who not. We expect that life should give us more than what we deserve. Why don’t we look at the other side of the coin. What are we doing to them? Are we good in giving? Are we coming up to their expectations? Expectations. High and high expectations. We never look at our own self what are we giving to life? I want to learn to give and not to expect back anything. That’s the key to live a meaningful fulfilling congenial life. When we give a little peace of joy to someone, we feel blissful too! And when we only expect the same joy coming from someone else then, it becomes subjective. This is a tough lesson but by sheer determination, one can apply this in life. Will I be able to succeed? Can’t say. I try not to expect the best out of things happening around. But I do prepare myself for the worst. The mantra in my head was, “Expect the best, but Be prepared for the worst”. But how can one get prepared for the worst when one is expecting something best to happen? So either one should expect the worst and prepare for the same or vice versa. If we expect the worst then actually we are nurturing a Negative attitude within ourselves. And if we expect the Best then we find it difficult to prepare ourselves for the Worst. So what’s the solution? Well to my mind, I feel the better is “Not to expect”. But always be prepared to take on challenges life keeps throwing on us. Dream high but do not attach high expectation with them. Think positive but do not attach expectations with it. Do anything on earth but Do not attach Expectations with anything. Well that’s what I am feeling right now. Who knows what new lessons I learn tomorrow. One thing I would like to add here is, though we try to learn some simple rules to live better, but the fact is that we hardly can apply any hard and fast rules to ourselves. Human life is volatile, unpredictable, and full of surprises in every moment. So take every day as it comes. Okay now, so today I want to learn ‘To give & not to expect”!

A new way to look at life !

A distracted mind. A lazy mood swing. Procrastination. Uff. Enough is enough now. Let me look at my life from a different perspective now. Let me get a lil mature now. No more baby innocence! Learn some maturity and get serious about life. Time is running ahead of me. And I do not know how to catch up with it. A bit slow but a steady endurance will surely pay one day. Oh let me judge how good I am in keeping a check on my own self, or keeping myself within the boundary, which calls for discipline and dedication. We tend to give in to our sinful urges most of the time. But let me exercise this new control over myself. Again there is no harm in experiment. And my mind is really good at that! I remember one incident, when my computer teacher cited an example of a boy, who had dedicated himself completely for his career. What I still remember is one line out of that chap’s very inspirational story is “He forgot the world and worked hard to achieve his goals”. I find this line very encouraging and a guiding force. Well, I do not really know that by forgetting the world would guarantee the success. But one thing is certainly guaranteed, that one does his best to make it. The outcome may turn out to be anything, but the satisfaction of doing our best makes us a winner in any case! So why not I exercise the same. Though it is always easy said than done, but at least I should give it a try. What say?