Learn to give, not to expect

I want to learn to give and not to expect. Our expectations are the reasons of our miseries. Once learnt this unique way of living, can actually change our lives. Every time we meet someone, we develop certain expectations from them. We expect always high of our children, friends, peers and who not. We expect that life should give us more than what we deserve. Why don’t we look at the other side of the coin. What are we doing to them? Are we good in giving? Are we coming up to their expectations? Expectations. High and high expectations. We never look at our own self what are we giving to life? I want to learn to give and not to expect back anything. That’s the key to live a meaningful fulfilling congenial life. When we give a little peace of joy to someone, we feel blissful too! And when we only expect the same joy coming from someone else then, it becomes subjective. This is a tough lesson but by sheer determination, one can apply this in life. Will I be able to succeed? Can’t say. I try not to expect the best out of things happening around. But I do prepare myself for the worst. The mantra in my head was, “Expect the best, but Be prepared for the worst”. But how can one get prepared for the worst when one is expecting something best to happen? So either one should expect the worst and prepare for the same or vice versa. If we expect the worst then actually we are nurturing a Negative attitude within ourselves. And if we expect the Best then we find it difficult to prepare ourselves for the Worst. So what’s the solution? Well to my mind, I feel the better is “Not to expect”. But always be prepared to take on challenges life keeps throwing on us. Dream high but do not attach high expectation with them. Think positive but do not attach expectations with it. Do anything on earth but Do not attach Expectations with anything. Well that’s what I am feeling right now. Who knows what new lessons I learn tomorrow. One thing I would like to add here is, though we try to learn some simple rules to live better, but the fact is that we hardly can apply any hard and fast rules to ourselves. Human life is volatile, unpredictable, and full of surprises in every moment. So take every day as it comes. Okay now, so today I want to learn ‘To give & not to expect”!

A new way to look at life !

A distracted mind. A lazy mood swing. Procrastination. Uff. Enough is enough now. Let me look at my life from a different perspective now. Let me get a lil mature now. No more baby innocence! Learn some maturity and get serious about life. Time is running ahead of me. And I do not know how to catch up with it. A bit slow but a steady endurance will surely pay one day. Oh let me judge how good I am in keeping a check on my own self, or keeping myself within the boundary, which calls for discipline and dedication. We tend to give in to our sinful urges most of the time. But let me exercise this new control over myself. Again there is no harm in experiment. And my mind is really good at that! I remember one incident, when my computer teacher cited an example of a boy, who had dedicated himself completely for his career. What I still remember is one line out of that chap’s very inspirational story is “He forgot the world and worked hard to achieve his goals”. I find this line very encouraging and a guiding force. Well, I do not really know that by forgetting the world would guarantee the success. But one thing is certainly guaranteed, that one does his best to make it. The outcome may turn out to be anything, but the satisfaction of doing our best makes us a winner in any case! So why not I exercise the same. Though it is always easy said than done, but at least I should give it a try. What say?

Me or my Life?

I want to move beyond ups and downs of life. The life like a live wire will continue to push me up and down, but somehow, by virtue of my will power I want to move out of its traps. Beyond joys and melancholy. Beyond its extreme circumstances. Let’s see how far I shall succeed. It’s not easy. Really it’s not easy. I am a rather soft soul. Can hardly bear the rough side of life. But I’ll try to be neutral towards life. And will always be looking at the brighter side of life. Oh rather I should say that I’ll be partial towards life and keep looking at the brighter side of it. Because life is precious. And I do not want to waste my life in crying over things. Ha life is much more precious than wasting it over such things. I will enjoy my life and every moment of life. Hmm it’s my challenge to my life! I’ll love to see who wins, me or my life. Cheers !

A Reason for Celebration – ‘The Moments of Life’

Okay we all know life is ‘One time opportunity’. Time once gone will never come back. Then why do we spend the precious moments of life in grudging over things on which we hardly have any control. Why do we seek reasons or excuses to celebrate a moment, a day or for that matter a specific occasion? This life is a precious gift given to us by the Almighty God. And we should make most out of it. Well according to me, we must celebrate Each and Every Moment of life. Instead of looking for an excuse to celebrate, we should make that very moment itself a “Reason” or an “Excuse” to celebrate. If we have been given this very moment, then it has to be appreciated and we must make the most out of it. Now the question is ‘How?’ We human beings are not standardized. We have our own moments of likes and dislikes, happiness and sadness, dreams and hopes, inspirations and expectations. And we have our own unique way to celebrate our own precious moments of life. Each and Every moment is precious as it is unrecoverable. Once gone it will never come again. And it’s up to us to decide how we want to spend our life, our own precious moments of life. Every one has ‘Problems’ and ‘Pleasures’ in one’s life. Now what makes us unique from others is our own decision to move towards ‘Problems’ or ‘Pleasures’. So, In spite of tons of problems and tensions in my life too, I have chosen to celebrate each and every Moment of my life. I will move towards “Pleasures’ to make the life more meaningful and beautiful for everyone around. What ‘P’ have you chosen, “Pleasure’ or ‘Problem”?

Hey come on tell me right away.

The real winner

Times will keep changing. Good times. Bad times. Not so good or bad times. And then there are times when we do not know what to call them. The real winner is the one who does not get trapped in this. One who can always be the same person through all phases of life. My problem is that, like any other ordinary normal human being, I do get affected by ‘times’. There is an art lying beneath this phenomenon. Something is static. That specific static substance, we need to find out. That lies within us only. The extreme phases of our life trap us within them. We need to break our souls free from them. The real winner is the one who remains the same through all ups and downs and ‘all times’. Not an easy task but there is no bar in trying. Trying to attain this goal. I am trying. And will keep trying.

What is it?

Was giving sometime to my own self now. Life has become a rat race. Hardly get time to devote to my own self or meditate or to reflect upon my real needs. Suddenly life has become so short. Time is running so fast. Things seem to be getting out of my hands. Emotions are puzzling me to the extent of madness. May be this is the time to forget everything else and introspect. Need to close my eyes to see what my inner self is seeking. What is it? The real ultimate aim. Where I want to go and what is it I am yearning to achieve in life. May be in the hustle and bustle of life, I am forgetting my real needs. Real needs of my inner self. Okay then I’ll move slowly on and find it out what is it I am really pining for.

Forbidden Tear

Can I come out?
I can’t hold myself in here
If you don’t want me to come out
Then don’t look at them
Don’t think of them
Your mystifying apathy
Will keep me here
And wait
Don’t let your eyes stir
Lest I should come out
And be lost into eternity
You don’t want me to come out
Then just hold me back
Within your heart, safe in your eye
Don’t blink, else
I’ll fall down
And be lost into eternity
I am…
I am your ‘Secret pain’
Your ‘Hidden fear’
Don’t let me part away
I am your ‘Forbidden Tear’.